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[Johnoco]

Forget and you will be forgiving again and again and again.

No. You don't just go on forgiving the same old stuff (serious stuff I mean) but if you forgive someone (ie really) you can't keep bringing it up. So its best to forget too. If it happens again....that's another matter.

[Marauder]

No. You don't just go on forgiving the same old stuff (serious stuff I mean) but if you forgive someone (ie really) you can't keep bringing it up. So its best to forget too. If it happens again....that's another matter.

How do you deal with this other matter - and how many times do you actually deal with it until you stop forgetting?

[Phil]

I find it hard to forgive or forget. I know intellectually that to do either is a good thing for you, but I really struggle with it, the problem is mine not the other persons i know, but I do find it hard.

[Johnoco]

How do you deal with this other matter - and how many times do you actually deal with it until you stop forgetting?

That's a different thing though, I'm referring to things that maybe happen once. Someone repeating the same offence doesn't come under f&f as there's definitely more to it than a one off thing.

[Saint Billinge]

I find it hard to forgive or forget. I know intellectually that to do either is a good thing for you, but I really struggle with it, the problem is mine not the other persons i know, but I do find it hard.

Time can be a healer but not always so. Some things that happen in life are difficult to forgive and forget, I can vouch for that,

[Bleep1673]

A relative of mine refused to speak to her daughter for over 30 years just because she married a man of the Catholic faith. Only on her death bed did she finally break her stubborn stance.

Those kind of attitudes died out 150 years ago. Did you know her Bill?

[Shadow45]

My mother and family refused to speak to me for just over thirteen years because I left my ex-partner and children, I then met the love of my life and married, this caused the rift. My mother then dropped down dead just over 4 years ago.

[Marauder]

My mother and family refused to speak to me for just over thirteen years because I left my ex-partner and children, I then met the love of my life and married, this caused the rift. My mother then dropped down dead just over 4 years ago.

Sorry to hear that Shadow, I give my mum and dad a kiss every time I see them and always kiss them goodbye.

[Saint Billinge]

Those kind of attitudes died out 150 years ago. Did you know her Bill?

Not so! I recall Catholics firing their chimneys on Protestant Walking Days in the late Fifties and Sixties, with Protestants returning the 'favour'. Even today, the animosity continues in sections of society. The person in question was my Auntie and who kept her stance for all those years. On another issue, such was their fallout, Peter Taylor and Brian Clough never spoke to each other again.

By the way, my name is Ray.

[Old Frightful]

Those kind of attitudes died out 150 years ago. Did you know her Bill?

By the way, my name is Ray.

Maybe Bleep thought she was either married to William or she was a duck.

[Saint Billinge]

Maybe Bleep thought she was either married to William or she was a duck.

Quackers!