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#1 Phil

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Posted 23 March 2013 - 01:47 PM

Here is our situation, my dad is currently in hospital and my mom is very ill and staying at my brothers house. Problem is, my brothers wife has breast cancer and starts her chemo on Monday. My brother and his wife are foster carers for children with emotional and learning problems, my mom can't stay with them much longer because my brother will be caring for his wife and if social services childs division find out my mom is staying there the two kids (one who has been with then 6 years) will be taken away.

My mom and dads house is unsuitable for a couple in their 80s, its on a steep hill and has lots of steps.

We're having a meeting with social services on Monday.

anyone on here have any experience of working with SS on problems of this nature?

Any advice very gratefully received.
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#2 heartofGold

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Posted 23 March 2013 - 09:45 PM

Social Services will try to keep mum and dad in their own home if at all possible by assessing the home for any aids or adaptations which can be put in place to help them ie slopes instead of steps outside, grab rails, stair lifts, shower seats etc.

If they think a care package is necessary they can arrange suitable carers to visit I think up to three times a day to help with meals, cleaning. helping with personal washing, making sure medication is taken and things like that. They will only do things mum and dad agree to.

They will only be concerned about mum and dad staying in their own home if they think they are not safe to do so, ie leaving food on the stove and forgetting it.

I think they are very good at assessing the all round situation and will listen to what the whole family have to say so as to decide what is best for everyone.

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#3 Padge

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Posted 23 March 2013 - 10:18 PM

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#4 longboard

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Posted 24 March 2013 - 09:59 AM

Phil, it's not clear what you are asking for here.

Are you asking about getting help for your parents, eg practical help in the home......?


Are you asking about getting help for your bother and sister in law...? Any deception about looking after your mum must be avoided... It is in the interests of the children's services to maintain the foster children with your brother & sister in law.........

#5 guess who

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Posted 24 March 2013 - 10:51 AM

Here is our situation, my dad is currently in hospital and my mom is very ill and staying at my brothers house. Problem is, my brothers wife has breast cancer and starts her chemo on Monday. My brother and his wife are foster carers for children with emotional and learning problems, my mom can't stay with them much longer because my brother will be caring for his wife and if social services childs division find out my mom is staying there the two kids (one who has been with then 6 years) will be taken away.

My mom and dads house is unsuitable for a couple in their 80s, its on a steep hill and has lots of steps.

We're having a meeting with social services on Monday.

anyone on here have any experience of working with SS on problems of this nature?

Any advice very gratefully received.


My brother in law is a foster carer.

The welfare of the kids has to come first.

There are not many people who will take on kids with real problems.

Why do you think the kids will be taken away. Why couldnt the kids just go into short term care untill a time your family is in a better position to deal with it.




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