I think one of the reasons that some people dismiss depression with a "get over it" is because some people "swing the leg" about it.
This leaves genuine sufferers tarred with the same brush similar to genuine benefit claimants and those with massive flat screens and Sky.
People swing the lead about all sorts if health issues
Your comment is irrelevant
This video comes the closest I have ever seen to communicating to people what suffering from depression means and is like
Even so it doesn't quite manage it. The reason for this is that it is impossible. Depression is an existential condition. It is about the way a person sees themselves
It gets dismissed because it is invisible, and almost impossible to empathise with. I have only ever known fellow sufferers to be able to do this
The way a person who lives with depression sees themselves is in a catastrophically negative way
It's manifested by overwhelming guilt, feelings of uselessness and inadequacy and worthless ness that take over your life... To an extent that you are powerless. That is a major reason that people self harm...hurting yourself is something that you have power and control over and for that reason brings a short lived relief.
It has nothing to do with being sad, fed up, down, blue or whatever
It is not caused by stress, although stressful situations can precipitate an episode
I have worked in stressful, dangerous even jobs for most of my working career, in psychiatric nursing and education and flourished for most of that time
I taught for the last fifteen years of my working life in a secure unit for highly disturbed young offenders
Over the years I tailored my work environment so that I was in full control of it. It was my turf with my systems my standards and so on. It worked very well for everyone especially for the boys.
This was rent asunder when the unit was rebuilt with a new education facility. My work environment was vastly improved materially but I was completely freaked out by it. It was not what I had spent years developing and I couldn't handle it
For a long time everything was great on the surface. The kids behaved we did these massive projects and all was cool. But deep down I knew that my work wasn't valid in education terms I kept no records didn't assess progress or anything that you are supposed to do it was all window dressing and I was descending deeper and deeper into an abyss
One morning I was sat in the staff room waiting for assembly the head of education came over to me and asked for my records
Of course there were none
I stood up and told him to stuff his records and his job up his ###### ###### and stormed out if the place leaving every security door and air lock open in my wake with increasing numbers of staff chasing after me until I escaped through the foyer.
I walked home feeling exalted, liberated, victorious.
Luckily my wife was in
I sat down and told her what had happened and she immediately rang our gp as I mentally collapsed before here eyes the exaltation escaping from my being like air from a burst balloon
I had been fighting depression for a long time and not realised it. I'd missed the signs as had those around me. I'd become withdrawn, selfish, lacking in compassion, negative, easily brought to anger, morose. It had happened gradually But people had assumed it was me just being me
The NHS , my family, my friends...those that I now know to be my friends and not the ones who pretended they were have been wonderful and I owe my life as well as the progress I have made to them: apart from a corrupt consultant who almost destroyed me
I can co exist with the black dog Most of the time thanks to them
Sorry for boring everyone
My intention has been to give people insight
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