For me the respect to referrees began to decline when refs started calling players 'mate' or referring to them by their first name or nickname.
IMHO refs are not 'mates' of players when officiating.
I agree one hundred percent. And the same comment could be equally appropriate applied to teachers ......... parents ........ foremen at work ........ matrons in hospitals ...... police officers ........ (politicians ?) ................
Great topic. It goes straight to fundamentals doesn't it.
All of us, especially when we are young, need to have confidence in our mentors if we are to benefit fully from them.
We need fair, firm, consistent guidance, instruction where necessary, and a strong sense of reliability and trustworthiness in our mentors just as much as we need kindliness, encouragement, approval and support from them ..... and of course (especially where essential) appropriately expressed love.
An effective mentor can certainly be a good friend, in my view, but in my experience not ever (usefully) `one of the boys' (or the girls).
It may be a very fine line that we cross (between friendliness and mateyness) but if, as a mentor, you once step over that line there is roll on effect, and you had better be pretty super-human to roll with it and yet remain fully effective as a nurturer, guide and mentor.
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